Long Term Weight Loss Goals - Tips To Win The
Battle of The Bulge
we set out to lose weight, we generally do so with an end goal in
sight. Whether the goal is vanity related or health related, we
have an idea of where we want to be. Maybe we desire to fit into
a certain size dress or wear this season's cutest bikini. Or, maybe
we want to be able to free ourselves from some medical issues or
rid our lives of daily medications.
Whatever our initial reason to lose weight, somewhere along our
journey we tend to veer off course. We get caught up in the process
of losing and "forget" where we were headed to begin with.
We start to fight with the number on the scale and soon that is
the only battle that matters. The war is no longer important because
we now have tunnel vision and cannot see beyond what is right in
front of us.
What happens when we do this to ourselves? As we all too well know,
most likely we begin the stages of giving up. We start to rationalize
why it's too hard. Or, we convince ourselves that we're okay just
the way we are. We really don't need to change.
So, how do we keep the fight in ourselves to move beyond the hard
times and achieve our goals? How do we turn things around when we
start to lapse, or relapse? I heard it best the other day when someone
said, "If you fall down the stairs and land half way down,
do you just hurl yourself down the remaining stairs because you
already fell down half of them? Or, do you pick yourself up and
climb back to the top of the stairs"? Ouch! Point well taken.
We have to keep our motivation going. We have to continue to focus
on ourselves and make our goals top priority. If you want something
bad enough, you will stop at nothing to get it. So, how do we keep
ourselves moving in the right direction?
Here are some helpful tips and guidelines to help you win the war
when you find yourself caught up in all the little battles:
- Remember why you want to reach the goal to begin with.
This is your driving force. This is why you have passion for doing
what you're doing. You can have some short term reasons, such
as looking good for an upcoming event, but to have true, deep,
center-of-your-soul passion, you have to find a lifelong reason.
Do you want to be alive and well when your kids have kids of their
own? Do you want to get off the blood pressure medications? What
is your reason?
beat yourself up when you lapse. No one is perfect and no
one is going to make the right choices all the time. Sure, there
are people out there that you think fit this criteria but if you
were with them day in and day out you would come to realize that
they are no different than you or I. We all have struggles and
we all make some bad choices from time to time. So, don't beat
yourself up for being human. Acknowledge that you could have made
a better choice and let it go.
- Don't allow a lapse to become a relapse. If you do lapse,
don't allow it to become a relapse. Don't continue to make bad
choices. If you are an all or nothing thinker, this is hard for
you. But it is up to you if you use this as an excuse or if you
use this as a motivator to change and break the cycle. When you
are sitting half way down the steps, do you hurl yourself down
the remaining steps or do you pick yourself up and climb back
to the top?
- Look beyond today to tomorrow. When you start to feel
overwhelmed by what is going on right now, you need to remind
yourself that it is one moment in time along a worthwhile journey.
Don't allow yourself to be frustrated by every little decision
making point or every little hurdle that presents itself. Remember
that when you reach your goal, you will have the quality of life
you have always desired.
- Use every decision making opportunity as a tool to empower
yourself. With every hurdle that is presented to you, you
have a choice. You can give in to the hurdle, let it beat you
down and walk away from it with your head hung low knowing that
you let it win. Or, you can look at the hurdle as an opportunity
to prove what you are made of. You can use your power, your skills,
your knowledge and your passion and make a good choice and walk
away from that incident with your head held high because you took
the harder and better option and you won! You beat your enemy!
Keep doing this and you will do it automatically and be at your
goal in no time.
- Remember how far you have come already. Whether this
is a journey you have been on for one day or one year, you can
look at some positive decisions you have made already to get you
closer to where you want to be. Celebrate those successes. Congratulate
yourself on taking the right road instead of the road that would
have taken you off course. Don't minimize any positive steps you
have taken. You wouldn't do that to a friend, so don't do that
- Breathe and realign yourself. When you start to feel
overwhelmed and caught up in the moment, stop yourself. Take a
few long, deep breaths and realign your thoughts. Replace the
negative "I can't do it" thoughts with positive "I
can accomplish anything thoughts". Get yourself back into
a state of being self-supportive, not self-destructive.
- Be your biggest cheerleader. When you are at a sporting
event and your team is down a few points, do you chastise them
and tell them they are worthless and leave the game because you
just know they aren't going to win? No. If you are a true fan,
you cheer them on. You build them up. You reach within your soul
and pull out every ounce of strength to send their way because
you believe in them. Even if a little part of you is scared that
they won't win, you pull for them anyway. You will accept them
no matter what, but you are going to try to motivate them with
every bit of energy you can muster. Do this for yourself when
the chips are down and the score is falling behind and you will
find an energy, an excitement, a fire you forgot existed. Cheer
yourself to success. Don't walk away in the fourth quarter when
you are down a few points. Summon your strength and go where you've
never gone before to pull off a win and raise your hands in glory
because you did it!
Remember that everything you do is a journey. It has a beginning
and an end. And, at every end of your journey begins a new journey
into something different. You will constantly be tested along the
way and it is up to you whether you continue your journey or sit
in the middle of the road and do nothing. I hope that you move beyond
the potholes and the closed roads because the picture at the end
of your journey is a bright, sunny place filled with smiles and
laughter. You can look back and say to yourself, "It was a
long road, but I persevered and life is good". Keep that ending
in sight because with every step that you take in the right direction,
you are closer to where this journey will end and a new one will
begin. Happy travels!