Well firstly, I want to point out I am not an expert on Eating Disorders and I am not going to preach about Eating Disorders either, or lecture people with an ED. That is not the point of this post.
I will start also by saying to anyione who has an E D, or has had an E D, nothing I say here is meant to patronise, belittle, or offend anyone of you. If I inadvertanly do that, I will apologise right now in full, because this subject is touchy, personal to some and highly sensitive, but one that I feel must be addressed.
If you are someone who believes you have a relative, child, or knows someone who might be using such harcore Anorexia sites that promote starvation, vomiting etc etc, this is something you should read too.
I would however firstly like to say, to anyone reading this who has one, or is recovering from one, whether you're a member or just a guest reader, that I am very, very happy
that you are reading this and perhaps a member of this site. This is a positive step you have made and I really want to tell you all, I am very proud of you coming here
and being any part of this site and I want you to know you all have my fullest respect and as much understanding as a non - E D person can have.
Pro Anorexia websites, the hardcore ones
encourage starving, vomiting, high exercise on zero calories, etc etc and they are killing people with an E D.
Do I think the owners of these hardcore sites have an E D? No I don't think some of them do, otherwise they might end up eventually dying from one and then have no way to continue peddling their mind control propoganda, on people who are vulnerable targets.
The problem is very deep rooted, and whilst in France many of these sites have been targeted for abolishment, by state law, other countries don't do this and must.
The problem also is so deep set, that some people will defend their right to starve and harm themselves very strongly, almost certainly as a byproduct of mental conditioning on these hardcore sites.
This is an example of how bad the problem can get.Click Here
Unless more is done to reverse this trend, many people with the potential to become wonderful people and great members of society, will live hellish lives, believing it's normal and WILL almost envitably eventually die young and in many cases alone and with no one who cared about them.
My humble belief is, Anorexia is not the persons fault, it's a side effect of other things like homelife and school life, shaping a persons view of their bodies.
It also doesn't help that the media promotes images, of celebrities with mediocre to zero levels of talent, just so we can supposedly see what they wear, how they look and what their new Nose and Breasts look like.
If you think you might be living with an Anorexic child, who might be using such sites, or think you know someone with such a child, I believe there are potential signs or ways to help someone, if you believe you are living with someone who uses such sites and their awful advice.
Q. Does the child often use the bathroom, or go to the toilet after meals?
A. They may be throwing up on purpose.
Q. Does the child often go to a friends house to hang out, but often use the bathroom, or go to the toilet pretty soon after arriving? Do you know what your child does there?
A. They may be friends with someone who isn't necessarily pro-ana, but they do this, to avoid you finding out what they do.
Q. In the last few years, has it taken longer for your child to go up in clothes sizes?
A. Your child might be using Pro-ana type advise, and affecting their development, meaning some of their clothes may remain the same size for longer than normal, because they don't grow out of them as quickly.
Q. Do you give your child money for food and they come home and still have the money?
A. They may be making excuses why they couldn't find time to eat, to hide the fact they didn't eat on purpose, like saying a Lunch time school club went on for too long, or when they got to the canteen they were the last lot to get there and all the good food had gone.
Q. Does your child come home with small purchases, that looks like they have spent Lunch money on other things, so as to avoid spending it on food they never planned to eat?
A. This might happen if they suddenly start coming home with small collectable items, like little tiny animals or something ike that. They might want to distract you from their problem with food, by making you think they're into something, because having a hobby of some kind is always a good thing right?
Another possibility is, after evening meals, your child may find a secluded place to go with a friend and possibly throw up, where no one will see, except the friend, or they may do it in school toilets, or when they get to school, to regurgitate their breakfast.
I actually typed in the word pro and anorexic into Google and found some sites as easily as that.
If your childs computer has parental controls, then I suggest you google such sites and put the sites into a blocked list, then password protect that list, so they can't unblock them.
You can find a list of such sites on something, I think it was called Surfring.
This will help cut off their means, of getting the wrong type of support and adivce. It's a harsh thing to do, but if you care about them, you cannot let them continue being brainwashed with false ideologies and negative body propaganda.
Also don't use passwords for a blocked site list, they might be able to recognise, like your date of birth, your house name, a Star Wars character, as blocking their access to such sites, might be good, but if they hack into the list and unblock those sites, your attempts to help will be undone without you even knowing.
As stated before, I am not trying to sound authoratitive on such matters, or offend anybody with an E D, but this subject needs more attention across the net, or many people who run the hardcore pro ana sites, will exploit, harm and potentially kill vulnerable young people, who need, help, care and understanding to recover from an E D, not die from it.