MissJenaKay wrote:I hopeso too, he's planning on outing me to my parents. That will not end well.
Today was weigh in and.... I lost .7 pounds. A pathetic amount but better than gaining I guess. I DON't understand why it's so hard to lose. I'm not trying to shave off that last couple pounds, so why am I getting nowhere when I'm eating pretty well and exercising pretty much every day?
You know your parents better than anyone else, as to how they will react. It may not go well at first, it may be a shock, or you may be surprised that they may have already known, or suspected. But either way, it needs to come from you. And if you tell your parents, they may need some time to come to terms with it - they may worry that life may be harder for you, people will treat you differently, things won't be as easy for you - and that would hurt them to see you going through any of that.MissJenaKay wrote:So let's hope like hell my parents are accepting and loving
you did nothing wrong.MissJenaKay wrote:I still feel like I've done something wrong.
No one is perfect. That is too high a standard for anyone to live up to. My mom once told me when I was 16 (after I had confided something to her) "I thought you were perfect" - let me tell you, that really hurt, and I felt much like you are describing. And even tho' I never forgot it, in time we got past it and as an adult I realized that she said that out of hurt and anger and shock. Her "little girl" wasn't so little anymore and was facing some grown up issues. Today and for many years I have a great relationship with my mom, she just made a mistake that day in how she handled it. I get that now. But when I think back on it I still feel that pain and understand how if feels to carry that "being perfect" burden.MissJenaKay wrote:I mean I'm supposed to be the perfect child
That sounds like denial to me. She doesn't quite understand yet, or isn't ready yet to deal with it. Give her time, accept that she might not handle it well - or in the way she should.MissJenaKay wrote:And my mom clearly doesn't think that this is real.
I am very proud of you Jena - that took so much courage and I respect you for that.MissJenaKay wrote:Told my dad today
I would think so! It took alot out of you mentally and emotionally to do what you did!MissJenaKay wrote:My nerves are shot and I have a hug headache
Only you know for sure what you truly want or feel. I think in time you will figure it all out, and will make your future fit you - who you truly are inside.MissJenaKay wrote:I don't want to date women, they don't fit into my wants for the future
There is a reason for everything. You took a big step in doing that - and you can tell that guy to go jump off the nearest cliff (that's putting it nicely) he doesn't have anything on you anymore.MissJenaKay wrote:I still don't know why I did this
Boss Man wrote:don't necessarily rule it out, because if you do, you could be imposing emotional restrictions on yourself that aren't fair.
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