Mad mad mad!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Ok can you vent here because i will loose it soon!!!!! if yes let me know i will explain why i am so mad!!!

[Boss Man]

Yes you can, as long as you don't use a million and one expletives

[Frenchmaid1969]

Yes you can, as long as you don't use a million and one expletives

LOL i won't... its just that... ITS JUST A BIT LONG!!!! SORRY
Well i work in a office full of women, right that some of them could be nasty sometime (men too but this is related to women now)...I usually don't hang around with people here because you can't really have true friends here they always back stab themself so i rather be alone and do my work and stuff... but one girl lost her buddy and i always wonder why! NOW I KNOW! i really am getting frustrated!!! One day she wanted to start taking her break with me and go for walk with me so i said ok!!!

Ok this girl use to be way fatter then me like i mean fat... big rool in her back and everywhere... i am not a person to make comment about people who are overweight so i did not care at all... this summer i left for my holliday i get 2 month off so i was gone from July and came back in September i came back and she all skinny i go wow what happen to you and she tell me that she she just do a lots and stuff so that why ... but i am convince that she take pill like spead she very hiper all the time... i ask here what she did because i told you before i need to loos weight too and i get depress often it take too long!

Now that she lost all the weight she keep making comment about people ... i work for the Goverment so we have to dress appropriate... one days she had avery high hill shoes, a mini skirt so tight that you could see her tong (panties) under, so she come to work and go DO YOU THINK THAT TOO SEXY FOR HERE so i said well yes a bit its pretty tight like i would were this to the bar but not here... anyway that was all i said!

Next day she goes my daughter told me i was fine.. so i told her well that you if you ok with that but me i would not were it... and she goes...WELL LOOK AT YOU IF YOU WOULD LOSE 50 LBS AND LOOK LIKE ME YOU ARE TELLING ME THAT YOU WOULD NOT WERE THAT.... i was so mad i was seeing black... i never get that mad ever but that time i had to leave and go for a walk to cool off...

Her personality is suck ... she always talk about her how skinny she is and all the men want her... and to tell yout he true she is not very attractive my husband told me not too worry about it...she always distrubing me at work because she on chat place and talk dirty with married men and all that stuff... i just so sick of it ... I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL HER THAT I DONT WANT TO KNOW WHO SHE SLEEP WITH OR WHAT SHE DOES.. REALLY ...SHE SLEEP WITH EVERYONE AND USE NOT PROTECTION... SO MAYBE SHE IS SICK TOO ..

Its just that she know i want to loose weight and i try hard but i only lost like 5lbs and she making me feel that she moking me she refuse to tell me what she did to loose that weight because then she won't be the center of attraction!!!

or maybe i just been CHILDISH!!! TELL ME!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

I've always found that the more women there are in an office, the more drama.

I'm the only woman on my team, and I love it that way.

Just try to ignore her and go back to work. It's just like high school. The more they see that they get to you, the more they want to act bitchy. Some people just never grow up.

Hi! Yes i know that really true... its so bad here... sometime i would like so change job just because of the environment but i love what i am doing but the people here i start to wonder beside i have been here for 18 years i have a lots of segnority.

See the reason why i think that she did not do this naturally is becasue she always brag about it how she has not clothing that fit her because she not fat anymore and then she goes... i can gave you some of my clothig if you want i will never were there again...

A person who lose weight and put a lots of effort dont act like her....they do it for themself not so they can brag to people all the time and drive them nuts....

She does not do this just about her body she always talk about when those men tell her online and how sexy she look and stuff like that! Yesterday she call me at her station so i taught that she needed help with her work i went and the she goes LOOK WHAT THAT GUY WROTE ME .. i told her nope i have no time for this ... i am busy....

This summer when i was off... she went to talk to the boss and told her she was working for too many people wich was only 2 so the remove one person and gave it to me.. i have to work for 4 persons now and all she does is chatchatting with male and laugh out loud... grrrrrr

[musculargirl]

Dealing with people you don't like sucks. I think most people can identify with that. Like allison said, just ignore her that's the only thing you can do.

[Boss Man]

Why not ask her if there is any way she can field calls outside, or in another part of the building or on designated breaks?

Why not talk to your supervisor about the behaviour and see if you can find a resolution that way? The supervisor or manager might back you up.

[musculargirl]

Your right Boss you can do that too not only just ignore it. Sometimes talking to a supervisor or the person can makes it worse and it can create more drama, but I guess it could help possibly too. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Dealing with people you don't like sucks. I think most people can identify with that. Like allison said, just ignore her that's the only thing you can do.

Ok i will try but its hard just work just beside me and she always want to come for walk with me ...

[Frenchmaid1969]

Why not ask her if there is any way she can field calls outside, or in another part of the building or on designated breaks?

Why not talk to your supervisor about the behaviour and see if you can find a resolution that way? The supervisor or manager might back you up.

I would like to go see my supervisor but i know for a fact she won't do nothing... everyone can hear her in the office! Even the other days my boss look at her and said wow you are wearing (BITCH BOOTS) SORRY FOR THE EXPRESSION BUT THAT EXACTLY WHAT SHE SAID and she did not get the message or my boss never tell her to do the conversation somewhere else and not during working hours! I really don't think she cares because i think that she does not like confrontation!!!!

Its because of that girl now that i have 4 people in my charge and she had 2 but when i was gone this summer on holiday she complain that she had too much work so they took one from her and add it to mine...

[Frenchmaid1969]

Your right Boss you can do that too not only just ignore it. Sometimes talking to a supervisor or the person can makes it worse and it can create more drama, but I guess it could help possibly too. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Thanks!

[Frenchmaid1969]

If she is so awful, why are you determined to seek her approval? Why are you getting sucked into her world? You need to have a look at why this bitch is getting in your head. I think it is you that has the problem here, not her.

I'm all outta sugar, sugar.

I am not sure if i understand what you are trying to tell me! I don't need her approval for nothing! She the one who always bug me and ask me how she look and wants me to read all the tx married and no married guy send her...I got upset because of the comment she makes about people that are heavier then her (and i am not fat i am a bit overweight) and she know that i don't like the way i look and i am trying to change that but she keep making fun of people bigger then her but she was there once and no one made fun of her!

Why do you think i the one with the problem and not her?

[Frenchmaid1969]

But if you accept, it's like punishing yourself. So just say you're busy or that you already went on a walk or something. Unless you want to keep punishing yourself.

The other day she wanted me to see when some guy wrote her i told her that i can't i am too buzy.. well she was really mad so i said what ever.... god one day she wanted me to take a picture of her so she can send it to some guy who want to see her in her tight mini-shirt... i told her no to ask someone else and she did not because we not alloud to stuff like that here it she want to go into chat line stuff she should do this at home not here!

[musculargirl]

I think you've had some good suggestions from everybody. Don't go walking with her and maybe just distancing yourself from her is the best solution. or maybe do like Boss said and even tell her some of her comments offend you or tell your boss. Who cares if she is mad at you, you just have to work with her not be her friend.

Its funny sometimes when you don't like someone, people look for things not to like them. I don't mean you specifcially i just mean in general i've observed that. Things we would overlook with a friend or family member we focus on and dislike in someone we don't care for. I think its human nature.

Good luck!

[Frenchmaid1969]

I think you've had some good suggestions from everybody. Don't go walking with her and maybe just distancing yourself from her is the best solution. or maybe do like Boss said and even tell her some of her comments offend you or tell your boss. Who cares if she is mad at you, you just have to work with her not be her friend.

Its funny sometimes when you don't like someone, people look for things not to like them. I don't mean you specifcially i just mean in general i've observed that. Things we would overlook with a friend or family member we focus on and dislike in someone we don't care for. I think its human nature.

Good luck!

I think that i will maybe talk to her and let her know that i don't really want to know what she does with other people and maybe she does not really realise the comment she make can upset people....

It funny i do like her she is a nice person but she change recently since she lost that like 50 lbs in 4 month... her attitude change and everthing... its bizarre she was not like that before now she alway talk about herself... even if i mention something about me.. its like she is not listening and she come back with something about her...

Well thanks for all the good suggestions! I will take all that and make a decision...

[Nokie173]

There’s always gotta be one of those people in the office. Unfortunately mine... there’s way more than enough of them. I’m happy I distance myself from them. Its funny how they somehow seem to be “best of friends” when they are together but once one of them turn around…. BAM… Shit talking happens! (I mean, if you’re really friends, why are you talking shit about each other to other people?)

They talk about everything. How fat/overweight people are ugly and degusting looking. What this/that person wears, who is good looking in the office and who they are sleeping with… etc… All stupid stuff.

They probably talk about me too but you know what? I don’t give a shit about it.Why? I’m working there to make a living… I have my own personal problems and DO NOT need to associate with stupid pity bitches who thinks they are all that because they dress slutty at work! Who cares if they are 105lbs or less, they maybe good looking (I guess… ) but their personality stinks like hell!!!!

They always ask me to go out for lunch, I say NO (I have my own lunch). They always want to take breaks with me, I tell them I have errands to do. They want to do Happy Hours with me, I tell them I don’t drink and have to go to the gym. They want to go to the gym with me, I tell them… I like to workout alone and like to go to the weights section!

Nowaday… I just say Hi and Bye to them….. I hear stories about their dramas in the office from other people... but you know what? I don’t care because it has nothing to do with me!

Point is… If you want drama free… distant yourself. Some people change for the better or for the worse. Maybe she had been sad and had low self esteem when she was overweight. Now she is getting hit on b/c of the way she looks… She got more self confident… now she is just conceited. She will learn her own lesson when she doesn’t have anybody.

If she was really a friend and I really like her and know she is a good person. I would be frank with her and tell her she is a bitch ever since she lost the weight! But if I don’t like her and don’t care what she do with her life…I would just mind my own business and avoid her and wouldn’t let her get in to my skin and make my life miserable.

Good Luck with whatever you do.

P.S : Sorry for using such foul words in one post.