amatlack wrote:When I was bigger, people used to call me Al. Or Big Al, take your pick. I have a very masculine frame. As I've lost weight, I look a ton more feminine because my curves are more visible.
You will also gain more femininity as your face thins out.
BUT why do boobs make you a woman? I don't think any physical feature defines womanhood.
I really have sat here for ten minutes trying to figure out to write, but I have no clue how to answer your first two lines. . . .
But in my opinion, breasts make you a woman due to the fact that they add soft curve to your frame, they're something that men don't have, something that attracts men and something that are so uniquely feminine. But then again, It's been proven many times in the past that what I think is either stupid, wrong, or doesn't matter. So take that as you will.
Lesplease wrote:Maybe if you try working out and eating the right things you'll start to feel better. Confidence goes up. Health (and brain function) improves. You'll feel better...
You are determined to put up road blocks which is totally fine. I wish I'd had this community in my life when I was 18. I was in a bad spot and I have no doubt the love and support here would have helped. If you're not ready, then you're not ready (which believe me I totally get), but you don't have to poo on everyone every time you get a compliment. Eventually you end up just insulting them.
The thing is, I don't mind compliments on things I agree with. I actually kind of like being complimented on my intelligence or clothes that I chose. Things that I had control over. I don't like compliments on things that just sort of happen, things driven on genetics, and things I disagree about. I'm working on learning to accept compliments, I really am. I've actually come a way since being here, at least I can say thank you and "I disagree" I used to just rip into people and call them liars. :/ I'm trying to do what I can, but I only have so much time in a day and I have limited food options. I'm working on it though.