Releasing The Resistance To Change For Increased
Health & Happiness
all know that "the only constant is change," yet inevitably
some (if not many) people resist anything new or different. Before
we explore some tools for managing change in response to the inevitable
resistance produced by it please understand that we are constantly
sabotaging our health, happiness and success unintentionally due
to our unresolved thinking, beliefs and attitudes. Yet even when
we know a thought, belief or attitude is not serving us, most of
us find it very difficult to change it or let it go.
The reason for this problem is very simple: our emotions color,
create, and lock these limitations in place, making the limitations
supposedly "real". It is our emotions that either put
us into action or prevent us from acting.
There are several "releasing" methods available for dealing
with these issues. "The Sedona Method" and EFT (Emotional
Freedom Technique) are two very popular, effective and well researched
alternatives that can quickly and easily eliminate these energetic
blocks. The Sedona Method will show you how to master your emotions,
thereby mastering how you think and act.
THE SEDONA METHOD
The Sedona Method is a unique, simple, powerful, easy-to-learn and
duplicate technique that shows you how to uncover your natural ability
to let go of any painful or unwanted feeling in the moment. It consists
of a series of questions you ask yourself that lead your awareness
to what you are feeling in the moment and gently guide you into
the experience of letting go.
Simple Exercise: Let me explain by asking you to participate
in a simple exercise. Pick up a pen, a pencil, or some small object
that you would be willing to drop without giving it a second thought.
Now, hold it in front of you and really grip it tightly. Pretend
this is one of your limiting feelings and that your hand represents
your gut or your consciousness.
If you held the object long enough, this would start to feel uncomfortable
yet familiar. Now, open your hand and roll the object around in
it. Notice that you are the one holding on to it; it is not attached
to your hand. The same is true with your feelings, too. Your feelings
are as attached to you as this object is attached to your hand.
We hold on to our feelings and forget that we are holding on to
them. It's even in our language. When we feel angry or sad, we don't
usually say, "I feel angry," or "I feel sad".
We say, "I am angry," or "I am sad". Without
realizing it, we are misidentifying that we are the feeling.
Often, we believe a feeling is holding on to us. This is not true
are always in control and just don't know it. Now, let the object
go. What happened? You let go of the object, and it dropped to the
floor. That's what we mean when we say "let go". You can
do the same thing with any emotion: choose to let it go. That's
exactly what happens when you dive into the core of a feeling.
Releasing will help you to free yourself from all of your unwanted
patterns of behavior, thought, and feeling. All that is required
from you is being as open as you can be to the process. Releasing
will free you to access clearer thinking, yet it is not a thinking
So Let's Give It a Try
Make yourself comfortable and focus inwardly. Your eyes may be open
Step 1: Focus on an issue that you would like to feel better
about, and then allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling
in this moment. Just welcome the feeling and allow it to be as fully
or as best you can.
This instruction may seem simplistic, but it needs to be. Most
of us live in our thoughts, pictures, and stories about the past
and the future, rather than being aware of how we actually feel
in this moment. The only time that we can actually do anything about
the way we feel is NOW.
Step 2: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:
- Could I let this feeling go?
- Could I allow this feeling to be here?
- Could I welcome this feeling?
These questions are merely asking you if it is possible to take
this action. "Yes" or "no" are both acceptable
answers. You will often let go even if you say "no". As
best you can, answer the question that you choose with a minimum
of thought, staying away from second-guessing yourself or getting
into an internal debate about the merits of that action or its consequences.
Go on to Step 3 no matter how you answered the first question.
3: No matter which question you started with, ask yourself this
simple question: Would I? In other words: Am I willing to let go?
Again, stay away from debate as best you can. Also remember that
you are always doing this process for yourself-for the purpose of
gaining your own freedom and clarity. It doesn't matter whether
the feeling is justified, long-standing, or right. If the answer
is "no", or if you are not sure, ask yourself: "Would
I rather have this feeling, or would I rather be free"? Even
if the answer is still "no", go on to Step 4.
Step 4: Ask yourself this simpler question: When? This is
an invitation to just let it go NOW. You may find yourself easily
letting go. Remember that letting go is a decision you can make
any time you choose.
Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed
until you feel free of that particular feeling. You will probably
find yourself letting go a little more on each step of the process.
The results at first may be quite subtle. Very quickly, if you are
persistent, the results will get more and more noticeable. You may
find that you have layers of feelings about a particular topic.
However, what you let go of is gone for good.
EFT - THE EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE
EFT is based on the discovery that imbalances in the body's energy
system have profound effects on one's personal psychology. Correcting
these imbalances, which is done by tapping on certain body locations,
often leads to rapid remedies. Most of the problems vanish in minutes!
This is especially so when you reduce the problems to specific negative
events in your life.
As you are probably aware, our bodies have a profound electrical
nature. Our electrical systems are vital to our physical health.
What could be more obvious? When the energy stops flowing, we die.
About 5,000 years ago, the Chinese discovered a complex system
of energy circuits that run throughout the body. These energy circuits
or meridians as they are called, are the centerpiece of Eastern
health practices and form the basis for modern day acupuncture,
acupressure and a wide variety of other healing techniques. This
energy courses through the body and is invisible to the eye. It
cannot be seen without high tech equipment. By analogy, you do not
see the energy flowing through a TV set either. You know it is there,
however, by its effects. The sounds and pictures are your ever present
evidence that the energy flow exists.
the same way, EFT gives you striking evidence that energy flows
within your body because it provides the effects that let you know
it is there. By simply tapping near the end points of your energy
meridians in a specific sequence you can experience some profound
changes in your emotional and physical health. The Sequence is very
simple in concept. It involves tapping on the end points of the
major energy meridians in the body while repeating a series of affirmations.
The two main ingredients of this process are the setup and the
sequence. During the setup you'll be tapping on the part of your
hand you would use to deliver a karate chop while repeating an affirmation
statement three times.
During the sequence you'll be tapping a series of other points
on the body while verbalizing additional affirmations associated
with the problem you're attempting to resolve.
"Clearing" accurately describes what this process is
all about by removing the years and layers of negative, clouded
thinking that you viewed as normal. Getting clear will give you
numerous paths to live with a new, positive energy and the ability
to seek out and find greater opportunities for attracting an incredible
You can use this and other techniques to deliberately create the
specific thoughts associated with your intended outcome and maintain
sustained focus (belief) on that outcome until it becomes a part
of your physical reality. Since this mechanism is fundamental to
causing what you are experiencing now, it only serves to reason
that by altering the input - you can change the outcome.
Richard A. DiCenso