You’ve made the decision to get in shape. You’ve planned out a diet and exercise program, and you’ve been sticking with it. Meeting that kind of goal can give you an indescribable feeling of accomplishment, especially considering the number of pitfalls you’ll inevitably hit on the way.
When you make such a drastic lifestyle change, it will affect everything in your life, not just what you eat and when you exercise. It will also affect your work, family and social life. And at the beginning, that can make the road pretty rough.
For the somebody just starting out, poor planning, lack of time and injuries can negatively impact your progress. But for the most part, those road bumps are under your control. What you can’t control is support, or a lack thereof, from the people around you.
Unfortunately, lack of support from family, friends and coworkers is actually normal. Preparing yourself for this type of reaction is almost as important as the diet itself.
There are three primary reasons getting support can be difficult:
- Most of the people around you don’t understand the program.
- Frustration from their past failures may spill over to you.
- The world doesn’t change just because you do.
Not recognizing these pitfalls can bring uninvited heartache and grief into your life, which can carry on beyond the duration of the diet itself. As you plan your physique transformation process, it’s important to remember a few things:
1) Keep your program to yourself for a little while. It’s nobody’s business but yours. Defending and explaining a program that you haven’t even gone through yet is virtually impossible. Don’t waste your time.
2) If negative remarks surface, respond to them politely, don’t get defensive, and no matter what they say, be nice. You always have the advantage when you are nice.
3) The world won’t change to accommodate your new fitness goals. People won’t change things in their lives because you chose to change something in yours. If somebody has a candy bar in front of you, it’s not the end of the world. You’re the one making the change, not them.
4) Just because you’ve decided to change doesn’t mean other people should make the same decision. If people around you are not ready to make a change in their lives, then that’s their choice, and you have to respect and support it. People make decisions about their lives on their timetable, not yours.
By just focusing on yourself and your day-to-day program, your physique will begin to change, and eventually people will ask what you’re doing. Because it’s obviously working, they’ll be more open to listening to how you accomplished your fitness goals. And now that you understand more about the process, you’ll be able to provide better answers. Confidence comes with accomplishment, which inspires others and helps them believe they can do this too.