Do men find fat women attractive?

[maggie05]

hello all members,

I am new to this forum & I hope to get your help as possible.
Let me just share with you what I'v seen recently,

Yesterday, I came across a website that is diplaying a video about overweight women, as I'm one of them,

After watching the video, I become more confused and frustrated.

Here is the link to the video:
http://www.viddler.com/explore/themo...ncom/videos/1/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;


I just watched this video and almost cannot believe some of the stuff this guy says, and I am now left wondering whether or not this guy is right.

So, I am putting the question to everyone on this forum:
Do men find fat women attractive?
Do I have to become slim for guys to find me attractive?

Please take some time to view the video and then you can advice.


Yours,
Maggie
An overweight woman with a nice heart!

[phsearle]

u may want to check if the video is still there.....it wasn't when I checked but I'd be amazed if any guy touches this one....it is a lose/lose proposition

[swanso5]

this post could not be anymore loaded...

as shit as it sounds, it still comes down to personality

we've all seen it and been there...you go out with a chick when she's hot, she 'let's herself go" while your wioth her but you still love her as much

so basically the intial attraction may be how you look but then it doesn't matter long term

should get off scott free with that one I hope

vid isn't there too

[phsearle]

That's very PC of you now try answring the question if you dare

Do men find fat women attractive?
Do I have to become slim for guys to find me attractive?

[Nokie173]

I cannot see the video… but I do have an opinion on this one even though I’m not a guy.

I certainly think it depend on the guy. Some guys can be shallow and like the physical appearance and want their woman stick thin, super duper bony and superficial. However, some guys like their woman to be meaty and go for the personality more than the outside appearance.

Physical appearance might be the first attraction that’s why you see all these people even young girls want to be stick bone so they can impress some guys who like their girl skinny… some girls won’t even eat and want to even throw up their food to stay skinny. Now that is no not worth risking your health for!

If you are overweight… then you want to lose weight for yourself and your health! The hell with those kind of guys who only like skinny girls and want their girls to starve themselves! I rather have a guy who can support me reach goals and live long with me than a jacka$$ who wants me to be skinny and don’t care what it takes even if it’s unhealthy as long as I’m thin. Be true to yourself girl… Find someone who appreciate you and your personality.

[phsearle]

Alright Gentlemen I'm gunna take a shot at this one (and may god have mercy on me)

right here goes

The world sees you as you see you, so if you see yourself as fat, lazy and unattractive so does the world. If you walk around in sweats with a stain on your shirt and your hair everywhere no matter whether you are 110 or 310 you aren't going to get a second look.

The fact that there are plenty of full figured gals (how PC was that) that are married or in relationships says that there is a demand and the fact that not all 110lb blondes are says that the fact that you are trim, blonde and pretty dos not mak it a slam dunk you will find a mate.

So in closing

take pride in your appearance, smile, have a positive attitude and people will catch on to that no matter whethr you wigh 110 or 310.

If course catching the guy is the easy part............keeping him is tghe hard part!

how did I go?

[PandorasVise]

why is there no 'normal' weight or average weight in your poll?

[starlet]

why is there no 'normal' weight or average weight in your poll?

Very true, and what is the difference between 'slim women' and 'skinny women'?

[maggie05]

thanks in dee for the interest,

i hope to other opinions since this topic is very important to us

I'll be waiting for your answers

yours,
Maggie

[fit-fanatic-2025]

I know some girls that have been overweight their whole lives and are now happily married. So its both yes and no. and it goes both ways. some women and men would be attracted to people who are overweight and some wouldn't.


I didn't view the video by the way - Not at the right computer..

[malligirl99]

Im not a man but let me give you some advice. Dont lose weight just because of a guy. I say this cause if that is your only motivation when they leave its so easy to just give up. Guys dont know wht they like and sometimes they have fantasies about bigger women but thats just it... a fantasie. they will satisfy it then move on. I think it is a great thing that you want to lose weight and this is a very good topic. AND TO ALL THE GUYS WHO ARE TO SCARED TO ANSWER YOUR NOT REAL MEN THEN... lol sorry had to say it... Hope this gives you a little prospective ... good luck on your goals totally hope your able to make it work... I understand that it cant be easy

[ironwill]

I think all men are different, and are attracted to different things. Some like chest, some like legs, butt, face, personality, it just depends on the guy. I think your chances of turning the most heads will be if your thinner.....BUT, you only need ONE GOOD man, and you should be happy, what all the rest think should be irrelevant. I know alot of big girls, who are married, and have hubbies who totally Love them, and don't care if they slim up or not. Find a guy who thinks you are, and wants to treat you like a queen...the way you are. He may not be the exact person you think, so keep an open mind, and look for one who treats you with respect. If he picks on you about ur weight, move on. That way ur set either way, if you gain or lose, makes no difference. Certainly for your own health you should look at what a healthy weight would be, but to me anyway, not necessarily for a man. Just .02....

[caramp2]

I am not a man but I can give you experience with husband. I am ~30lbs over weight-160lb at 5'1. When husband and I met 15 years ago I was 130-135 so I have never been skinny. I was more fit than I am now but very curvy. He seems to love that I put on weight he says he loves curves. husband and I had a conversation about weight this weekend because he knows I am trying to lose weight again. He said he loves me the way I am and not to do it for him. I am not comfortable at current weight so I want to feel better but it is great to know he loves as I am. He told me I am gorgeous and the perfect woman physically in his eyes.

Oh and hubby is not the emotional sappy type so for him to express this I believe him. I guess the bottom line is it depends on the man.

[SCPrl]

Like others have said, it depends on the person and the degree to which they're overweight. Some people definitely do, but I think most people find excess fat unattractive. It's difficult to begin a relationship if you're overweight; I know people have definitely treated me differently depending on how much I weighed.
I think it's a little sad, though, that everyone agrees on confidence being the most attractive thing. Being found attractive would boost confidence, and being ignored will only make people feel worse about themselves, so it's kind of a sad cycle. =/
I think kindness and good humor = charm.

[Lazy_Bum]

Nope, I personally do not find overweight/fat women attractive. I want to be able to toss girl around like a rag doll when we're together intimately. Since I'm not a strong guy to begin with, overweight/fat women won't do for me.