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(http://www.howtoloseweightathome.info/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;) I hope that does not offend anyone
Only because you're not someone who's known for that. It was less of a surprise when she did it, because she had no prior history here, so to all intents and purposes she was not going against any known grain
Thanks Lynne! I'm not being hard on myself though, i really was just joking. Looking a certain way was more important to me in twenties. Now, I would like to be thin, but I really just want to lose some weight, not be overweight, hopefully develop love of a few sports, i would like to just be okay with food and eating and learn not to binge and just enjoy life.
Looking a certain way doesn't bring happiness. I'm too modest to take a pic like that anyways. Although I will give kudos to her for achieving her goals.
I want to read this book called normal eating for normal weight by sherly canter. I 'm going to see if it's at the library. I may always have food as an issue in life but i know i have to do something about binge eating. It is considered an eating disorder and i have it definitely,. binging is getting pretty bad. I had someone i know that did intutitve eating and lost weight that way. If i can just stop binging i will be happy. I'm like a bulemic but i don't purge. I'm going to read the book and see how i like it.
Looking a certain way brings a lot of happiness, if not everyone would not be trying to achieve it. As an overweight person I would see a fit person & think " bitch " wish I looked like that, most women DO think that way. Deny it if you want but its true. Now when those women give me dirty looks I smile, because they have no idea just how much work & sacrifice it takes.
Though this picture above makes me want to look for a crowbar to find the crotch of her pants ? To bad spandex doesn't do much for back of the leg fat.
Bonnie wrote:Looking a certain way brings a lot of happiness, if not everyone would not be trying to achieve it. As an overweight person I would see a fit person & think " bitch " wish I looked like that, most women DO think that way. Deny it if you want but its true. Now when those women give me dirty looks I smile, because they have no idea just how much work & sacrifice it takes.
Though this picture above makes me want to look for a crowbar to find the crotch of her pants ? To bad spandex doesn't do much for back of the leg fat.
I was pretty skinny and fit when i was in twenties and i wasn't happy. Happiness comes from within not from the way you look. I'm not in denial. Everyone has things that are important to them. Looks are more important to some than others. If your really overweight losing weight and being thin will bring a certain amount of happniess, i agree on that. I want to be fit and healthy but to have a perfect butt or perfect body is not idea of happiness. Just to be fit and healthy.
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Your right happiness DOES come from within. The looks or perfection you refer to are the end result of a commitment to yourself. It takes an all around spiritual & mental love for yourself to accomplish transforming your body & lifestyle. The further you progress the more at peace within yourself you become, at least thats experience.
If you mean runway models they look ghastly, who would want to look like them ? Fitness models work really hard or use steroids, though both wouldn't have eating disorders, still need calories for the amount of muscle they have. Whether they are shake dependent vs food who knows, that would be the dividing line for health concerns I suppose.
Bonnie wrote:The looks or perfection you refer to are the end result of a commitment to yourself. It takes an all around spiritual & mental love for yourself to accomplish transforming your body & lifestyle. The further you progress the more at peace within yourself you become, at least thats experience.
I think for you Bonnie that committment is kind of a hobby for you. Which is fine. I'm happy you've been successful and are doing well at it. I think with trying to have the perfect body there also comes this insecurity along with it, always thinking someone is going to look better than you, i think that is kind of falling into a trap of never measuring up. When i looked at this picture i honestly didn't get jealous, i didn't want to put a crow bar to her and i certainly didn't think she had any fat on her. She has a cute shape I think. Kudos to her, great for her. I could care less. There a million other girls that have nice shapes too big woop.
I guess if you do bodybuilding or fitness as a sport or hobby it probably is more important to you. There is a degree I'm sure of satisfaction that comes from being in that kind of shape but it's not for everybody and there are a lot of ways to develop yourself spirtually, emotionally and physically and derive much happiness without thinking the perfect body is the answer to life's problems. I want to develop myself physically with sports and hopefully in a nice balance healthy eating plan as well. But going after the perfect body, frankly doesn't interest me.
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Why do I think if i did that i wouldn't get quite the same reaction. Instead of 
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Although I will give kudos to her for achieving her goals.
I'm going to read the book and see how i like it.